Why your Lovable Girlfriend has turned into an Angry Wife?

You would often smile remembering the days you spend before marriage, the unforgettable moments, the love and happiness you shared, the deep connection you had with your wife or then girlfriend. And now when you see your wife you realize there is something missing in this relationship. Your wife is not that always laughing, cheerful, romantic girl that she used to be instead she has turned into an angry, a bit resentful and sarcastic women you never could have thought that she would be. The life after few years of marriage is not at all like you had imagined. You may also resent and blame your wife for the disastrous change in her.

You have often wondered what prompted that change and you may have realized somethings or may have been left more confused than ever. Here I would love to specify few reasons that may have caused the change:

Sudden Rise in Responsibilities :   The girl you met the first time and fell in love with was very carefree and always smiling. Her world revolved around you and she always expressed the love she felt for you . After you got married she had the responsibility of not only taking care of you but also your family, relatives, social circle and these responsibilities increase ten folds after the kids. It may seem like an easy task and you may find that she manages it quite well but if she is handling them alone she may sometime need your help and support even if she never asks for it. The constant running for fulfilling the need of others may overwhelm her and she may act irritable due to lack of time she has for herself.

Lack of Appreciation : She may be the most selfless person you have ever met and very easy going person who never expects anything in return. But 1 thing that she may be yearning for is some form of appreciation and when it comes from you she will be on cloud nine. Try to remember the days you courted each other. You both appreciated even the little efforts done for each other. And now every thing she does falls under the criteria of her duties and is left unappreciated. Trust me on this,  the easiest way to gain a beautiful smile from your wife is to compliment her and this is the easiest way to resolve any argument. Compliment her often, make her realize she is appreciated, you notice her and her day to day life matters to you. Remind her how beautiful she is even when she doesn’t have time to take care of herself, tell her that you love the food she cooks for you, you like the way she cares for you and your loved ones. Ofcourse she should also be appreciative of your efforts.

Lack of Romance : Before marriage you spent ample of quality time and shared whatever you felt with each other. This romance somehow got lost in day to day life and you took each other for granted. You may have become too comfortable with her and forgotten that a women has greater emotional needs than that of a man. You may feel tired once you return home and may just want to rest which is understandable. But try and sit with your wife for just few minutes and ask her about her day and share something nice from your day or you can just share a joke. Just spend those few minutes only with her wholeheartedly and you may find a huge difference. You can also take her on a date whenever you get time even if it is just a simple dinner. Just spend the quality time with her making her realize that she is not just your wife, your children’s mother but also your lover and she will always be someone special in your life with whom you would love to spend the lovely moments and make wonderful memories.

Lack of Communication: Lack of communication is the foremost reason of distance in any relationship. Share your troubles, your ambitions, your desires and expectations and open your heart to your loved one. Communication is not just sharing. Listen to your partner and the main thing is to listen without any judgement and with open mind. Listen to her fears, the challenges she is facing in the new life, the things that are hurting her and console her. Do not be judgmental or think of this as an complaint and respond angrily but understand her point of view and offer your advice or find a middle ground acceptable to both of you. If you react harshly when she is sharing the difficulties with you it will create a wedge between you and she will close herself emotionally which will lead to more frustration and irritation in her behavior.

Disrespect : Sometimes we disrespect our partner unintentionally. Remember to never trample on self-respect of your partner. Making snide comments on her looks, cooking, anger issues or any other thing even jokingly can hurt her deeply. We may think of it as a joke but look at your partner’s reaction. If she is uncomfortable then it is better to not joke about these things related to her self worth. Also sometimes we let our family members disrespect our partners in the hope of maintaining the peace in the family but it could make your partner resentful not only towards the said family member but also towards you. Always defend the dignity and respect of your partner politely.

Help your partner: In your hectic life busy with your job you often forget that your partner is also equally tired both physically and emotionally. Try to help her in small tasks. If it is not possible for your to help in working days just help her in your weekends or holidays. Sometimes offer to take care of the kids or family so that she can have some me time occasionally. Let her enjoy the me time however she wants and let her be refreshed both physically and mentally.

Read the reasons carefully and see if any of these unintentional mistakes has turned your smiling girl into a angry women. Let me know in the comments. And my dear lovely ladies if you feel any reason is missing please mention in the comments so that your issues can be known and the mystery around the women be solved.

Apoorva Yadav Kamboj