A to Z of a Relationship

We were taught the alphabets of English language when we were just toddlers, helping us lay the foundation of English and now we can speak fluent English. In the same way we learnt many languages however we often wonder if only we could learn the language of relationships and be an expert in it. How easy it would become for us to avoid failures in relationships . So today I am going to help us learn the alphabets of a relationship: 

Accept : Accept the person the way they are. Trying to change a person puts unnecessary pressure on him/her which could lead to frustration and anger. You can definitely try to change some bad habits but the personality of a person can never be changed. So accept him/her with all the little quirks after all you fell in love with the same person.

Believe : It means two things: believe (trust) your partner and believe in your partner. Trust him/her and give them enough space to enjoy their life. Believe in his/her dreams and support in every way you can. These both things will mean a lot to other person.

Care : Show your love not only with words but in your care towards your partner. Taking care doesn’t only mean in sickness it means take care of your partner’s likes, dislikes, happiness, mood swing,  in short in everything they do 

Devote : Devote your heart, mind and soul completely to your love.

Express : Express your love from eyes, small gestures, words, care and in every other way your partner loves. Make them feel loved and appreciated.

Forgive : Love someone enough to forgive their mistakes . Holding on to the previous arguments or grudges not only can affect your relationship but also make you a bitter person.

Grow Together : Help each other to grow and become a better version of themselves. We change according to our age, circumstances etc. but we can make sure that these changes are positive and take us towards our goals by helping each other.

 Honest: Honesty is the best policy especially in relationships. Be truthful and loyal to your partner. It is the foundation of any relationship.

Intimacy : Be intimate not only physically but emotionally and intellectually also. Physical intimacy is easy to achieve but it’s not everlasting. Being emotionally and intellectually intimate will bind your love forever and will also increase physical intimacy.

Joy : Be happy yourself and then become the reason of your partner’s smile. If you are happy then only you can keep others around you happy.

Kind: Be kind, generous and empathetic. Be the sunshine in other’s dark times. 

Love: Love your partner. I will not elaborate as I am sure if you are in a relationship and trying to work it then you must love your partner. Just be sure you form a relationship for love not for need, attraction or fear of being alone.

Motivate : Be each other’s strength and motivation in difficult times. Your belief and motivation will give your partner strength to do better and better.

Nurture : Give your all to nurture your relationship. It is just like nurturing a plant. If you want to have fruits of love then give air (love) , sunlight ( kindness), water ( trust/ honesty), soil ( acceptance) etc. and nurture your relationship.

Open: Be open with your partner. Tell them your strengths, weaknesses, fears, likes and dislikes and bare your soul. Same way listen to your partner with an open mind. Being open with each other will bring you closer.

Praise : Praise and appreciate your partner from all your heart. Your appreciation will boost their self confidence and criticism will affect them deeply. Your praise will let them know that the efforts they are making for you are not going unnoticed and you are appreciative of all that they do for you.

Quality Time : Spend quality time with each other. Life is not all about running behind your goals but about enjoying the little moments of peace and quiet with your loved ones.

Respect : Respect your partner and ensure your partner respects you. Everyone has an innate wish to feel respected as it makes us feel safe, loved and accepted.

Surprise : Surprise your partner now and then. A boring monotonous life leaves a person drained and unsatisfied. Bring the element of surprise to shake the routine. Plan a trip, picnic or bring a little gift, chocolate or flowers it can be anything just do something special for your partner sometimes 

Talk : Communication is the key in any relationship. It reduces the chances of being misunderstood, helps in knowing the other person well and becoming close to each other.

Understand : Try and understand your partner. Understanding a person helps to relate with them and comprehend the reason behind their actions. It will help you to put yourself in their shoes and then react accordingly.

Value Each Other : Make your partner feel valued and of immense importance to you. Feeling neglected or unvalued may drive your partner away.

Worry Less :  Don’t feel pressured or burdened by all the work a relationship needs. It’s all in the process. A relationship doesn’t become good in an instant it needs time to form a meaningful bond. Just enjoy the journey to each other’s heart.

Xoxo : Give lots of hugs and kisses to your partner. It helps them feel loved and close.

Yearning : The need and yearning to be with each other is the driving force which will help you do everything for your partner and keep the spark alive.

Zeal: Be enthusiastic about the relationship.

See the language of relationships is so simple yet so complicated. What are the A to Z mantras you follow in your relationship? Do let me know in the comments.