29 Dec
Relationships

Mistakes to avoid in an Argument

A relationship does not require you to be perfect all the time. A good relationship does not mean that you both should love to do the same things or you will never have any fights and life would forever go on smiling and laughing with you two in each other’s arms. All relationships have their fair share of struggles and ups and downs, it is just how fast you resolve the issues and bounce back to normal that defines the strength of your relationship. Sometimes despite our best efforts, we find that we are having constant fights and arguments which never seem to resolve and keep on piling in our minds and heart. Now fights never occur in the right state of mind and it is extremely difficult to control our response at that time but it is very important to remember that harsh words can hurt more than anything in the world. It is of utmost importance to avoid the following things while arguing with your loved ones:

  • Revisiting the Past: We all are often guilty of making this mistake. Instead of just trying to settle the issue at hand we raise the issues of the past which were already discussed. This habit of revisiting the past whenever something happens works as fuel in the already blazing fire. Avoid discussing the past and try to remedy the present situation.

 

  • Passing the Judgement: We sometimes just put a label on the person like ” you are an aggressive person”, ” you are a control freak” etc. Instead of labeling a person negatively we should try and understand the point of view of the other person and phrase our sentence positively. We could say ” you sometimes lose your temper too soon” or ” you sometimes tend to become too possessive”. This will help the other person understand the actual problem. Even if at that time they are too defensive they will not be hurt and may realize their mistake when they ponder over the issue later. It is also important to note that do not ever be in a relationship that is actually abusive in either way physical or emotional and if the person is really aggressive or controlling just stay away from such a relationship.

 

  • Trivializing the Matter: Sometimes it feels that the other person is arguing over a simple matter which could easily be avoided. Instead of trivializing the matter and saying things like you are making a mountain out of a molehill, just hear what the other person is trying to say. Sometimes things which we find trivial are very important to the other person or maybe that many little things which you did not realize were happening recently and that made the person react a little more than required or the other person may be troubled by something else entirely and was looking for a vent. Either way, when you hear the other person you may be able to work out things in a positive manner.

 

  • Keeping Scores: Do not ever keep scores of the things in the relationship. Now it may seem strange but we often say during arguments that we have been fighting a lot because you keep making mistakes all the time, or I have been apologizing all the times recently and you never take any initiative to solve the matter. It may seem like a simple thing to say but keeping scores like these bring out a sense of competition which will only increase the arguments. See if you say you have been apologizing all the time it may seem like you apologized just for the sake of ending the argument instead of realizing your mistake. It may be correct but it will demean all the previous apologies and the other person may find it difficult to trust your ”sorry” in the future. Keeping score may also put the other person on a defensive mode and that would accelerate the situation pretty fast as you both will be busy upping your scores and throwing bouncers to defeat the other person instead of resolving the matter. Do not make it a competition of who has hurt the other person more by actually hurting each other again and again by saying ugly things in the ugliest possible way. Calm down, take a breath and discuss.

 

  • Keeping Grudges: Sometimes we hold grudges against something that our loved one has done or said and bottle those feelings which leads to a sudden outburst. Avoid bottling up your feelings and try to resolve them or forgive them as soon as possible.

 

  • Raising Voice: Now that is the hardest one to control. Arguments are meant to be done in a loud voice so that the other person can understand our frustration and anger. But when we raise our voice the other person does not understand the words we say, the matter we have raised, or how hurt we are, the other person only hears our tone, our anger and thus responds in a higher tone to subdue you. Try to argue quietly. Now that seems contradictory but try to keep your anger and tone in check.

 

  • Walking Away: It is literally the worst thing that you can do. You may justify it as a ”time out” to pacify the situation, but it leaves the other person feeling frustrated and unimportant. Never walk away from your loved one as the other person will feel abandoned. Try to resolve the issue then and there because it will prevent it from getting bigger and uglier. If you absolutely feel the need to quieten the storm brewing inside you just let your partner know that and try to make them understand instead of just walking out and leaving them behind with the most negative thoughts they can come up with.

 

  • Argument or Sarcasm in Front of Others: Do not, in any circumstance, show your differences in front of other people. It not only makes your partner feel insulted but also makes your relationship a laughingstock. Always keep your matters private.

 

I hope you and I can remember these things when we share some heated moments with our partner. Do let me know.

Apoorva Yadav Kamboj

27 Dec
Poetry

समझौता

तूने तो कहा था माँ,
शादी में समझौते करने पड़ते हैं,
तूने ये क्यों ना बताया माँ,
सब समझौते खुद से ही करने पड़ते हैं,
समझौता खुद के सपनो से,
समझौता खुद के अपनों से,
समझौता खुद की ख़ुशी से, अरमान से,
समझौता अपने उसूलों से,आत्मसम्मान से,
समझौता अपनी आज़ादी से, अपने संस्कार से,
समझौता अपने पहनावे से, अपने विचार से,
समझौता अपनी हर सुकून भरी शाम से
यहाँ तक की अपनी पहचान से, अपने नाम से,
तूने ये तो कहा था माँ,
शादी में समझौते करने पड़ते हैं,
तूने ये नहीं बताया माँ,
सब समझौते बस हमे ही करने पड़ते हैं !!

 

अपूर्वा यादव काम्बोज

24 Dec
Let the world know India

Facts About India- Part 1 (Geographical)

India is the cradle of the human race, the birthplace of human speech, the mother of history, the grandmother of legend, and the great grandmother of tradition. Our most valuable and most instructive materials in the history of man are treasured up in India only- Mark Twain.

Our Country is so rich in heritage and culture and our ancestors were very knowledgeable in all the fields but sadly we are not much aware of our rich past. There is so much to share about India and it would take numerous posts to show even a fraction of the history and even after those posts we would not be able to fathom the greatness as most of the old values and cultures have been lost.  I will share some of the interesting facts in blogs in this series about India which will give us a general idea of our countries rich past and present. Let us start with some geographical facts about our beloved country:

          Geographical Facts :     

  • India is the seventh largest country in the world, with an area of 32,87,590 square kilometers.
  • India is the second most populated country in the world. In December 2021 India’s population has crossed 1.4 billion.
  • The Tropic of Cancer passes right through the middle of our country.
  • India has the youngest and highest mountain range in the world i.e. The Himalayas that are approximately 70million years old. Interestingly India also has the oldest surviving fold mountain range in the world which is The Aravalli Range.
  • India has a lake formed by meteor hit around 52000 years ago. The lake is named Lonar Lake and is located in Buldhana District, Maharashtra.
  • Mawsynram Village, in the East Khasi Hills district of Meghalaya, India is the wettest place on Earth.
  • The Siachen Glaciar, in Northern Kashmir, India is the highest battle field in the world.
  • The Ganges Brahmaputra Delta is the largest delta in the World formed by three major rivers namely Ganga, Brahmaputra and Megna.
  • The largest and second largest mangrove forests are in India. Sundarban Mangrove forest is the largest mangrove forest which is located 60% in Bangladesh and 40% in India. Pichavaram, located in Tamil Nadu, is the second largest mangrove forest in the world.
  • Majuli in Assam is the largest river island in the world. It is formed by Brahamputra River in the South and Kherkutia Xuti, joined by Subansiri river in North.
  • The Keibul Lamjao National Park in Bishnupur district of Manipur is the only floating National Park in the world.

Did you find the above facts interesting? Do share more interesting geographical facts about India.

To read more facts check other articles on India in this series.

Apoorva Yadav Kamboj

Disclaimer :  The facts may change along with time.

 

 

18 Dec
Health

Being Healthy- What does it Mean?

We all wish to remain in perfect health and most of us are  taking adequate steps to be healthy to the best of our knowledge especially in current pandemic situation. But does the health only mean taking care of your body? What does it mean to be completely healthy? As per WHO health is a state of complete well-being, physical, mental and social.” In this blog we shall cover about the types of health and what does each type mean and signify:

Physical Health : This is the type or part of health on which most of us focus, the health of our body. The body is the temple of the soul and hence we do our best to keep it in best shape. In todays world physical appearances matter a lot and thus we try to be in shape not just for health but also for being accepted and appreciated in the society. In the pandemic we are more conscious about increasing our immunity to safeguard ourselves. So physical health includes the following aspects:

  • How well our body is functioning.
  • How well our organs are working.
  • Our Immunity and stamina.
  • The strength of our muscles and body.

Mental Health : Mental Health means how well our mind works. It has nothing to do with the intelligence. It simply means how well do we cope and respond in day to day situations. The mental health is our ability to handle stressful situations and deal with them without any negative impact on our mind or body. Stress can cause a number of mental as well as physical illness. People consider that only absence of any mental disorder means that the mind is completely healthy. However mental health includes:

  • Absence of Any Mental Disorder.
  • Ability to work productively and efficiently.
  • Able to cope with day to day life situations.
  • Ability to handle stress without any negative impact on physical and mental status.

Social Health: Social health is the ability to form cordial relations with the other people in society. The social health included:

  • Ability to form meaningful relationships.
  • Ability to adapt with different social situations.
  • Ability to act appropriately in social settings.
  • Ability to communicate effectively.

Emotional Health : Emotional health refers to the feelings you experience most of the time. It is okay to feel negative emotions like anger, sadness, helplessness sometimes but if a person is feeling only the negative emotions all the time it may lead to have a huge impact on the emotional health. Emotional Health affects all the interactions we have, the way we respond to the situations, persons, the way we behave and the way we are, and thus emotional well being is of utmost important to maintain mental, social, and even physical well being. The mental and emotional health  can be described as matters of mind and heart.  Emotional health includes:

  • Ability to Feel Positive Emotions like Love, Happiness, Hopefulness, Empathy, Forgiveness etc.
  • Ability to cope with the negative emotions like anxiety, restlessness, anger, stress etc.  and keep them at bay.
  • Ability to express all the emotions in a healthy manner.
  • Ability to make valid decisions considering all the aspects without being affected by momentary emotions.

Spiritual Health : Spiritual Health means finding the meaning and purpose of life and following a set of beliefs, morals and principles to make our soul healthy. Spiritual health may mean finding the oneness with God or nature to some or finding the peace within oneself to others. The purpose of our lives does not mean that we have to attain enlightenment only it just means giving a meaning to whatever we are doing in our lives.

  • Ability to find the meaning and purpose of  our life.
  • Ability to find oneness with God or nature.
  • Ability to find satisfaction in life.
  • Ability to be at peace within oneself.

Environmental Health: Environmental health refers to the well being of the environment around us that can impact the health of human lives  and lives of all living creatures around us. The environment refers to soil, water, plants, air etc. It also includes the biological, social, physical and chemical factors of our surroundings. Environment health includes:

  • The well being of natural elements around us.
  • The well being of all the other living creatures around us.
  • The biological, social, physical and chemical factors of our surroundings.
  • Our relationship with the surroundings.

 

Being healthy is a vast term. We need to not only concentrate on our physical health but also focus all the other factors that contribute to our overall health. In following articles we will discuss how to ensure the overall health. Hope we all will together strive to be completely healthy.

Apoorva Yadav Kamboj.

 

 

 

 

 

18 Dec
Laughter Dose

10 Jokes to Laugh Out Loud

Looking for A reason to laugh ? Look no more and enjoy the jokes:

 

  • Are you Outstanding too?  : John is driving down the Delhi-Amritsar highway when he spots his friend Steve standing in the middle of a huge field of grass. He pulls the car over to the side of the road and notices that Steve is just standing there, doing nothing, looking at nothing. John gets out of the car, walks all the way out to Steve, and asks him, “Excuse me, what are you doing?” Steve replies, “I’m trying to win a Nobel Prize.” “How?” asks John, puzzled. “Well I heard they give the Noble Prize to people who are out-standing in their field,” says Steve.

 

  • Valid Reason except they may have name tags and Records: Teacher: Sir, why doctors wear a mask when they do an operation? Student: For safety. If the patient dies, others can’t find out who did the operation.

 

  • Lesson of the Joke  : Dentists also date: “I thought, Miss Smith, that you wanted yesterday afternoon off because you were seeing your dentist?””That’s right, Sir.”

    “So how come I saw you coming out of the movie theatre with a friend?”

    “That was my dentist.”

  • Never say that out loud : Two friends talking:
    1st: “Hey can I borrow some money? I’m broke.”
    2nd: “Get money from your job.”
    1st: “I got fired.”
    2nd: “Why?”
    1st: “My boss told me to leave all my problems behind the door, so I told him to stand outside.

 

  • True Friendship : Three friends, stranded on a desert island, find a magic lantern containing a genie, who grants them each one wish. The first friend wishes he was off the island and back home. The second friend wishes the same. The third friend says “I’m lonely. I wish my friends were back here.”

 

  • Think Before Comparing :  Teacher ” You are very bad in Maths. At your age I could solve all the difficult problems within few minutes. I was smarter than you.” Student : ” I bet your teacher was also smarter than my teacher. Not everyone is as lucky as you.”

 

  • This Cop is really smart :A Cop Calls his station and informs his seniors that a crime has been committed by a woman. She has murdered her husband for stepping on a recently mopped floor. Senior : Have you arrested her?. Cop : Not yet, the floor is still wet.

 

  • What seems to be the problem here ? Ron and Harry were walking down the road and Ron found five hundred rupees. Harry :  We will take 50:50. Ron : What will we do about the rest four hundred rupees?

 

  • Poor Accountant : A deaf accountant works for a Mafia King. Once the Mafia King checked the books and noticed that his 1 million dollars were missing. He called the accountant and the translator and asked:

Mafia King :  Where is my money?

Translator (In sign Language) :  The Boss wants to know where is his money?

Accountant (In Sign Language) :  I do not know. I did nothing wrong.

The translator translates the same to the Boss.

Mafia King : I am asking you for the last time otherwise I will you kill right here. He then points the gun on his forehead

Translator (In sign Language) : Boss is very angry. Please tell him otherwise you will die a horrible death.

Accountant (In Sign Language)  :  Ok, Ok. I have hidden the money in my safe at my office and the combination for the  same is 8543.

Translator to the Boss : He says go screw yourself. He will never return the money.

 

  • I too need some space : Interviewer : Why do you want to become an Astronaut ? Man :  I just need some space.

 

Apoorva Yadav Kamboj

Credit: Various websites and books.

 

 

 

16 Dec
Parenting and Child Care

Potty Training-Is it Really As Hard As It Seems?

Your child is reaching all  the milestones, making you feel amazed at what all your little one has learnt in this past one or two years. Now you feel it is the time to potty train your baby but it feels like a very big task and you feel confused at when to start and how to start. There are many available articles on this already but they make you feel overwhelmed instead of prepared. There is no right way or guide to anything when it comes to parenting. I am just sharing some tips that helped me potty train my child at 1.2 years.

  • Start from Teaching to Use the Washroom: I started making my child wear underwear instead of diapers at the age of 1 during the day time. I took him to washroom at an interval of 1 hour regularly to make him urinate in the washroom. He resisted initially going to washroom so I did not force him to go immediately. I let him finish the current task he was doing and then take him gently to the washroom. But accidents happened initially so whenever he urinated anywhere else I just patiently told him to use the washroom next time. I advised him to tell him whenever he needs to use the washroom. In the beginning he just told me by signs. Each time I taught him how to express his need in words. It took 4-5 days to train him to urinate in the washroom. It may take less or longer depending on your child.
  • Observe the Signs: Each child has a tell tale sign of when he/she is about to do potty. My son hid in the corners of the room or behind the curtains whenever he felt like doing potty. As soon as he hid, I took him the washroom and made him sit on the toilet seat.
  • Make it Fun Time :When I made him sit he was bored initially and didn’t want to sit on the seat at all, so I decided to make it a fun time. I sang him poems or gave him small toys to play with while sitting. We interacted and enjoyed so that he feels comfortable sitting. As children are restless and do not like to it idle.
  • Consistency : The most important point is consistency on your part. It may seem like a big task to take him to loo after each hour or to observe the tell tale signs but the regularity is important for your child to understand that this is the only right way to urinate or to do potty.
  • Be Patient : This is a go to mantra for teaching your child anything. It took atleast 2-3 days for my child to do potty on the seat as initially even when he sat he refused to relieve himself. But each time I advised him gently to use the toilet. It was a task for me to observe him and whenever he went missing for few minutes I searched for him and took him to the loo. It took atleast 15-20 days when he started informing me that he wanted to go ”potty”. And my son was officially potty trained.

There are many methods to potty train the child quickly within 3 days or a week but to fully potty train my child it took approx. 1 month. But it was not a struggle and all of this time was fun for both of us. It make take your child only 1 week to go off the diapers but please ensure to have fun all this time and avoid frustrations on both of your part. And as I always say you are the best mom your child could have and all the decisions and choices of parenting you make are perfect. You know your child the most so whatever you think is right is best for him/her. Lots of love and power to you.

 

Apoorva Yadav Kamboj

20 Oct
Laughter Dose, Parenting and Child Care

Parenting is Fun Part-II

Who is your favorite stand-up Comedian? Mine is my little son, nothing can make me laugh more than the funny things my kiddo does and says. I know most of you feel the same. Here are examples of what these funny creatures have said that could leave us in stitches:

Such a Unique Name:

”My name is Liz. Short for Lizard NOT Elizabeth” A seven year old. (@Livefromsnacktime).

I too feel the same Kiddo:

Me: Someday you will have feelings for boys.

6-Year-Old : I already have feelings for them.

Me : Really?

6-Year-Old: They make me mad.  – James Breakwell.

I need to really start reading more to be that creative :

I told my kids that we are no longer saying ”shut up” because it sounds mean and can hurt people’s feelings. So my kids are getting creative with their use of words. My 9 year old daughter was talking and talking, my 6 year old couldn’t take it and said, ” Silence You Peasant”. – Candy N Erik Cisneros.

Kids are never at Fault :

dad : ” Come On, you guys are late.”

11-Year-Old : ”You should have started YELLING at us earlier”. – dadmissions.

Cannot agree more: 

” I thought I needed a hug but I really need pancakes.” – 7 year old. (@Livefromsnacktime).

Good Food is all I can ask for:

The Sunday School Teacher asks, “Now, Johnny, tell me frankly; do you say prayers before eating?”

”No sir,” little Johnny replies, “I don’t have to. My Mom is a good cook.”  www.atimetolaugh.org.

Good to Know : 

Honey, I am home.

Milk, I am home.

Sugar, I am home.

My kid after coming from school. – Anonymous.

Is any Humanitarian around : 

7-Year-Old : Mom, what is Humanitarian?

6-Year-Old : I got this Ma. It’s like vegetarian, but they eat Humans.

Horrified or Proud?  – Lisa.

Just Looking for an Unpaid Worker assuming he ever works :

” I really don’t want a Husband but I would like help around the house”. – Anonymous 8 year old.

Feet Traps : 

4-year-old: Why do we have to wear shoes?

Me: They protect your feet.

4-year-old: : No, they trap your feet. *whispers* They’re feet traps. -mommyowl.

 

Going to get those stitches now? Hurry.

Apoorva Yadav Kamboj

 

20 Oct
Poetry

Lost Love

Lost Love.

 

It’s been years since I felt,
that my stomach is full of butterflies,
It’s been ages since a glimpse of you,
made my heart soar to the skies.

It’s been so long since i could hear,
the violin in the background,
It’s been months since it felt like music,
Every time you made a sound.

It’s been days since your touch,
made my heartbeat go crazy,
It’s been years since your eyes,
Made my mind hazy.

It’s been ages since I saw,
your eyes full of love and care,
It’s been so long since we both had,
any beautiful feelings to share.

It’s been months since we had those fights,
that brought us even closer,
It’s been days since we had the urge,
to just hug each other.

It been years since sitting in silence,
gave us peace and comfort,
It’s been ages since just your smile,
could take away all the hurt.

It’s been so long and I feel,
all that’s left is a distant memory,
And believe me I feel so empty,
and this hollowness is so scary.

I miss how we used to be,
and wonder if you too feel this pain,
I need to know what went wrong,
I need to feel your warmth again.

It is bad to feel lonely,
but worst to feel alone when together,
Sometimes I feel so lost,
And afraid that it’s all over.

It’s hard to go on this way,
And even harder to leave,
It’s difficult to give up on this,
And impossible to believe.

Either show me a way out,
Or show me a way in,
Don’t leave me in this void,
It’s tough to even breathe in.

Love, pull me closer,
Or push me away,
Either ask me to move on,
Or ask me to stay.

I am tired of the waiting,
I am tired of the indifference,
I am tired of living in the memories,
And I am tired of your absence.

Relieve me of this agony,
Relieve me of this pain,
I can bear no longer,
I swear I am going insane.

For It’s been years since I felt,
that my stomach is full of butterflies,
It’s been ages since a glimpse of you,
made my heart soar to the skies.

 

Apoorva Yadav Kamboj

19 Oct
Motivational, Relationships

Is Patriarchy responsible for Women Lacking Behind?

We, women, often complaint of the patriarchal world where women are not given equal rights, are suppressed and are not allowed to live as per their own wishes. Which I cannot contradict as it is true to an extent. But are only men responsible for holding women back from achieving anything in the world? Are only men responsible for every struggle in our life, every rule that bounds us or every judgment we face? From whatever I have experienced in my life I have found that most often a woman is suppressed by woman only. It may sound weird but if you stop to think about it even you would agree to it. So how are women responsible for being a hindrance in development of their own gender let us find out:

  • Believing in Patriarchy : Woman especially older woman believe in patriarchy too much and they are unable to believe that the times are changing. From an early age they start imparting the traits in their daughters, granddaughters to make them understand the difference between the roles of both the genders thinking that it will help the little girls in their future. They teach them cooking, cleaning and every other chores not as life skills but as their duties which they have to do in order to have successful marriages. They teach them to be gentle, shy, submissive and people pleasing. This lesson that has been passed on from generation to generation plays a major role in upbringing of girls who think that it is only their responsibility to make the marriages work and they have to do everything in their power to please everyone.

 

  • Pampering ‘Sons’ too much : The male child are often pampered too much and their almost all the wishes are fulfilled. It is hard for them to learn that they can be denied something and ‘No’ doesn’t seem to be an acceptable word for them. Moreover they are not taught any of the chores, never given the ‘pep’ talk about importance of being a people pleaser or taught to learn to compromise and meet the half way. They are never told that they also need to work and be involved 100% in every aspect of their relationship. This pampering as a child makes them feel entitled. Even if they do something for their partners they often consider it as ‘’help’’ instead of their duty. Their egos are inflated and they only feel responsible to provide for their family. In order to achieve equality it is important to educate both the genders equally both academically and socially.

 

  • Judging Too Much ; We, women, are often quick to judge other women too soon. ‘Did you see what she was wearing? It’s so revealing’’. ‘She is so old-fashioned; my mother wears better clothes than her’. ‘She has so many male friends, I bet they are not just her ‘’friends’’ , ‘ She seems a lousy mother and lousier wife, she make her husband and son work at home’ and so on, you have got the general idea. Consider any social get-together you will find men busy drinking, talking about their jobs, sports, politics etc. and women gossiping about each other. Now I am not trying to stereotype, nothing is applicable to all. But if you think about it, it is generally true. If we somehow break the pattern and start supporting each other instead of criticizing each other we can not only motivate but also help in removing the fear of judgment which is the most important cause of hindering women development. ‘ What will people think’ should never be a problem anymore. Sometimes we just like to see the next generation suffering the same fate as us just in the name of traditions. We forget the pain we felt when we were at their age and inflict the same wounds on them as inflicted on us. Other times elder women find it hard to accept the new thinking of the younger ones and try to suppress them and mold them as per the rules of the house. We need to accept other woman and their unique way of  doing things and appreciate them just as the way they are.

 

  • Lack of Backbone : It is essential to stand up for ourselves and equally important to stand up for women near us. Don’t be fooled by the thinking ‘ Sadiyon se yahi chalta aa raha hai (It’s been going on for ages)’. If it is going on for ages it doesn’t mean that it is correct. It need not go on forever. Take a stand for those who are dependent on you and those who look up to you so that they can live a free and happy life.

 

  • Competitive Nature : Human beings are very competitive in nature. But we women take it a notch higher. We want to be most beautiful, stylish woman who is the best cook, best wife, daughter-in-law, mother and best in everything. We find it hard to see someone else being praised by our loved ones as we are very possessive in nature. Our world revolves around our loved ones and we want to see their world revolving around us and if we find someone else threatening our position we find it difficult to accept. Many times a mother-in –law resents her daughter in law just because she is getting the attention of her son. When someone finds out about the extra marital affair of her husband she blames the other women for breaking her house instead of her husband forgetting that her husband is actually guiltier as he is the one who swore to be by her side forever. Whereas you will find  a man blaming the wife more. Similarly in offices we find women targeting other women in every possible way to succeed believing that only one of them can rise and make it a competition to be the best women in the company. They find it easier to target other women instead of joining hands and competing in a healthy way with all team members equally.  This needs to end and we need to hold the hands and up-lift each other if we want to see the women rising.

As the saying goes ‘’ Be the woman who fixes another woman’s crown without telling the world that it was crooked’’. Try and correct the wrongs we have been doing to other women both un-intentionally and intentionally and see that the world is not so biased anymore. When women support each other incredible things happen. Let the magic begin.

 

Apoorva Yadav Kamboj

11 Oct
Fiction, Spiritual

“भगवान विष्णु के दशावतार” – जीवन विकास की वैज्ञानिक कहानी (Dashavatar of Lord Vishnu” – The Scientific Story of Life Evolution)

“माँ, मैं एक आनुवंशिक वैज्ञानिक हूँ। मैं अमेरिका में मनुष्य के विकास पर काम कर रहा हूं। विकास का सिद्धांत। चार्ल्स डार्विन, क्या आपने उसके बारे में सुना है? “वासु ने पूछा।

उसकी माँ उसके पास बैठी, मुस्कुराई और बोली, “मैं डार्विन के बारे में जानती हूँ। लेकिन क्या आपने दशावतार के बारे में सुना है? विष्णु के दस अवतार?”

वासु ने हां में जवाब दिया।

“ठीक! तो मैं आपको बता दूं कि आप और आपके डार्विन क्या नहीं जानते हैं।

ध्यान से सुनो-

पहला अवतार मत्स्य अवतार था, इसका अर्थ है मछली। ऐसा इसलिए है क्योंकि जीवन की शुरुआत पानी में हुई थी। क्या यह सही नहीं है?”

वासु थोड़ा और ध्यान से सुनने लगा।

उन्होंने आगे कहा, “फिर कूर्म अवतार आया, जिसका अर्थ है कछुआ, क्योंकि जीवन पानी से जमीन पर चला गया। उभयचर! तो कछुआ समुद्र से जमीन तक के विकास को दर्शाता है।

तीसरा अवतार वराह था, जंगली सूअर, जिसका मतलब था कि जंगली जानवर जिनके पास ज्यादा बुद्धि नहीं है, आप उन्हें डायनासोर कहते हैं, है ना?” वासु ने चौड़ी आँखों में सिर हिलाया।

“चौथा अवतार नरसिम्हा था, आधा आदमी और आधा जानवर, जंगली जानवरों से बुद्धिमान प्राणियों तक का विकास।

पांचवां, वामन अवतार, बौना या बौना, जो वास्तव में लंबा हो सकता था। क्या आप जानते हैं ऐसा क्यों है? क्योंकि, दो तरह के इंसान थे, होमो इरेक्टस और होमो सेपियन्स और होमो सेपियन्स ने वह लड़ाई जीती।”

वासु ने देखा कि उसकी माँ पूरे प्रवाह में थी और वह स्तब्ध था।

“छठे अवतार परशुराम थे, जो कुल्हाड़ी चलाते थे, वह व्यक्ति जो एक गुफा में रहने वाला और वनवासी था। जल्दी गुस्सा करने वाला था यानि सामाजिक नहीं थे ।

सातवें अवतार राम थे, जो पहले तर्कसंगत सोच वाले सामाजिक प्राणी थे, जिन्होंने समाज के नियमों का पालन किया और मानव संबंधों का आधार बनाया।

आठवें अवतार थे बलराम, एक सच्चे किसान जिन्होंने जीवन में कृषि का मूल्य दिखाया।

नौवें अवतार कृष्ण थे, राजनेता, राजनीतिज्ञ, राजनयिक, राजदूत, दुभाषिया, प्रेमी, जिन्होंने समाज का खेल खेला और सिखाया कि कैसे अधार्मिक सामाजिक संरचना में रहना और पनपना है।

और अंत में  कल्कि आएंगे, जिस आदमी पर तुम काम कर रहे हो।

वह आदमी जो आनुवंशिक रूप से सर्वोच्च होगा।”

वासु ने अवाक होकर अपनी माँ की ओर देखा। “यह अद्भुत है माँ, आपने कैसे किया ….? अब कुछ समझ में आता है!”

उन्होंने कहा, “हाँ आता है, बेटा! हम भारतीय कुछ अद्भुत चीजें जानते थे, लेकिन यह नहीं जानते थे कि इसे वैज्ञानिक रूप से कैसे पारित किया जाए। इसलिए हमने उन्हें पौराणिक कहानियों में बनाया। पौराणिक कथाएं विश्वास पैदा करती हैं और मनुष्य को समझदार बनाती हैं। ये आप पर निर्भर करता है कि आप इसे कैसे देखना चाहते – धार्मिक या वैज्ञानिक।”

 

“Mom, I am a genetic scientist. I am working in the US on the evolution of man. Theory of evolution. Charles Darwin, have you heard of him? ” Vasu asked.

His Mother sat next to him, smiled and said, “I know about Darwin, Vasu. But Have you heard of Dashavatar? The ten avatars of Vishnu?”

Vasu replied yes.

“Ok! Then let me tell you what you and your Darwin don’t know.

Listen carefully-

The first avatar was the Matsya avatar, it means the fish. That is because life began in the water. Is that not right?”

Vasu began to listen with a little more attention.

She continued, “Then came the Kurma Avatar, which means the tortoise, because life moved from the water to the land. The amphibian! So the Tortoise denoted the evolution from sea to land.

Third avatar was Varaha, the wild boar, which meant the wild animals with not much intellect, you call them the Dinosaurs, correct?” Vasu nodded wide eyed.

“The fourth avatar was Narasimha, half man and half animal, the evolution from wild animals to intelligent beings.

Fifth, the Vaman avatar, the midget or dwarf, who could grow really tall. Do you know why that is? Because, there were two kinds of humans, Homo Erectus and Homo Sapiens and Homo Sapiens won that battle.”

Vasu could see that his Mother was in full flow and he was stupefied.

“The Sixth avatar was Parshuram, the man who wielded the axe, the man who was a cave and forest dweller. Angry, and not social.

The seventh avatar was Ram, the first rational thinking social being, who practised and laid out the laws of society and the basis of human relationships.

The Eighth avatar was Balarama, a true farmer who showed value of agriculture in the life.

The Ninth avatar was Krishna, the statesman, the politician, the diplomat, the Ambassador, the sutile interpreter, the lover who played the game of society and taught how to live and thrive in the adhaarmic social structure.

And finally, my boy, will come Kalki, the man you are working on. The man who will be genetically supreme.”

Vasu looked at his Mother speechless. “This is amazing Mom, how did you …. ? This makes sense!”

She said, “Yes it does, son! We Indians knew some amazing things, but just didn’t know how to pass it on scientifically. So we made them into mythological stories. Mythology creates faith and makes man sensible. It is just the way you look at it – Religious or Scientific. Your call.”

Credit : Story Read Online on a FB page.

 

Apoorva Yadav Kamboj

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